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How to Stay Confident in Your Decision to Move Cross Country Alone

How to stay confident in your decision to move cross country alone | ChelseaDinen.com

After moving cross country four times, and preparing for my fifth long distance move, I know how badly doubt and limiting beliefs can start to affect you as you prepare to move cross country alone.

Moving cross country alone is no easy feat. It’s not easy to decide to uproot your current life in order to start a new chapter entirely on your own.

So, I’ve put together some of my own personal methods to stay confident in your decision to move cross country alone.

Remember, for more in-depth tools, resources, and guided visualizations about all things moving-related, you can register for my eCourse Soul Centered-Moving: A Spirited Course in Moving Cross Country Alone today. I highly recommend taking a look now so that you won’t miss out on the early bird pricing/bonuses!

1. Ask yourself, “Which option feels like forward movement?”

If you’re still debating about whether or not to move or to stay where you currently are, ask this question. It’s something I once heard Jordan Bach say and I use it now whenever I have a tough decision to make. A decision where there are many pros and many cons regardless of the option.

Oftentimes, society wants us to think that we must stay in a career we went to school for or that we invested the past however many years working to gain experience in. We begin to think that if we were to leave to pursue a different lifestyle elsewhere, it would all go to waste. But is that really true?

Instead, ask yourself which option truly feels like forward movement.

Remember, moving forward is different than remaining stagnant.

2. Remember why you started

When you begin to feel doubt sneak in, remember why you started.

Is it because your soul craves to expand and grow? Is it because you’ve been feeling the push to live outside your comfort zone? To stop putting off your dream of moving to that new city?

What ever the reason, reconnect with it now.

Stop and take a deep breath. Focus only on the very reason why you started.

Do this every morning when you wake up and every night before you go to sleep.

Sometimes “life gets in the way” and the busy-ness of moving distracts us from that deep passion that originally brought us to this very point in time.

By reconnecting with the purpose behind this move, you’ll begin to reinforce your core beliefs and desires and goals. And from there, your confidence will blossom.

3. Don’t base your decisions on the advice of those who don’t have to deal with the results

If you haven’t already, now is the time to start setting boundaries. Moving to a new city on your own is a very big and often difficult decision to make, and any negative energy in the form of disapproval or judgment from others can be very detrimental.

Family members and friends may not entirely understand or agree with your decision to make such a big life change. Let go of the need for their approval. And remember:

The only person you need permission from to follow your dreams is yourself.

If you feel confident about this decision, if you feel it is the right step moving forward in your life, that is truly all that matters.

Trust that the right people will come around when they’re ready.

But don’t go pining for their support and advice in the meantime.

As with all personal development and new life chapters…

Take your power back.

It’s the key to stay confident in your decision to move cross country alone.

Whether you believe it or not right now, you really can do this all on your own.

You’ll see.

When working with my beautiful clients, I often bring up the importance of exercising our “courage muscle.” Nearly every time a client mentions doubt creeping in and losing their confidence, it’s because they either allow their own negative thoughts (the ‘what ifs’) to consume them OR it’s because of something someone else said to them.

It’s time to turn the negativity around.

It takes a great amount of courage to start a new chapter in a new city on your own. But all these little moments and lessons leading up to your move are opportunities to strengthen that courage and prove to yourself, “I am capable. I can do this.”

Because you are. And you can.

Leave a comment below letting me know what stood out for you the most and what you’re going to start doing differently in order to flex that courage muscle a little more.

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Some Helpful Resources:

  1. My eCourse Soul-Centered Moving: A Spirited Course in Moving Cross Country Alone
  2. Eight Tips from My Last Cross Country Move
  3. Why Being Scared to Relocate Isn’t Such A Bad Thing
  4. Ten Ways To Remove Negative Energy From Your Life

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  • Reply
    April 28, 2016 at 6:04 AM

    Dear Chelsea,
    although I am not about to move cross country, I just loved to read your words. There is so much truth in them – for any life situation.
    What stood out most to me “The only person you need permission from to follow your dreams is yourself.” LOVE that! So true so powerful.
    I am excited to see your full on move…but there is one thing I wanted to ask: Are you driving all the way from the East Coast to the West Coast with the car or are you flying?
    Have a beautiful day!
    xx Ronja

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      Chelsea Dinen
      April 28, 2016 at 4:17 PM

      Thank you, beautiful Ronja! I should add somewhere in my post that these steps can be used for any life situation, just as you said. It’s about staying true to ourselves, no matter what :)

      And, yes, I am driving the entire way from the East Coast to the West Coast! It is one of my very favorite things to do and I’ll be sure to snap and Instagram throughout the whole journey! xo

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    April 28, 2016 at 3:07 PM

    This post came just at the right time. I am moving to San Diego, CA from Upstate NY this upcoming Tuesday. I do not have a job lined up (I have been applying), I’ve sold most of my belongings, and I am moving in with a friend – the only person I know in San Diego. I think more than anything it’s just the anxiety of packing because I also have this weird calm feeling, like I know I’m making the right decision. I’ve wanted to move away and try somewhere new but always let myself get tied down into not great relationships or find any excuse to put it off. I started following your blog not long after I made the decision to move and I am so glad you posted this – I’m gonna take this as a sign that everything is gonna be okay and run with it ;) I’m excited for a clean slate, as well as not being known as “someones ex gf” or “that girl who went to school with so and so”… Looking forward to the next post!

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      Chelsea Dinen
      April 28, 2016 at 4:24 PM

      I can’t tell you how happy I am that you read this post at exactly the time that you needed it. I will actually be right behind you as I move a couple days after you! I’ve always said that the absolute hardest part of moving is those weeks and days leading up to the move. I call it the “in-between” phase. All of the anxiety and what-ifs that pop up. But then, once we’re actually there, we see it’s not so hard after all and our journey unfolds beautifully!

      I’m so glad that you feel that calm feeling and you know deep within your heart that you are making the right decision. I’m so proud of you for making this big life change for yourself and I trust that you are going to grow and learn so much throughout your new chapter. Definitely stay posted here or on my social media as I have many clients/readers who are also moving to San Diego soon and I’m thinking about starting a monthly get-together for all of us to bond and build a circle of new connections :) Wishing you a safe and inspiring trip next week! I’m so excited for you!!

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    May 11, 2016 at 12:00 PM

    Thank you Chelsea!

    You have a safe trip as well! I would love to be included in a monthly get-together if you start one! I’ll keep an eye out for it but my email is jgscholder@Yahoo.com just in case! :)

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